I feel as though I need to clarify some things that have been asked and also a few things that have been weighing heavily on my heart.
I want to start by thanking everyone who has liked the “Operation Baby Henrickson” fb page as well as the people who have been able to donate. I especially want to thank my sister Antonina for starting both of the pages, we love you so very much and it means the world to us! With that being said people should know that I am not the admin for the Operation Baby Henrickson fb page nor am I admin for the GoFundMe page, my sister is in control of all of that so anything that is posted on the page is from my sister. My sister came to us and asked if she could start these pages to help us with the cost of using donor eggs, in no ways were we trying to drag people into what we are doing, she wanted to help but doesn’t have a ton of money that she can just give us so she came up with this. We are forever grateful to her for everything she has done for us! Thank you sister!!!! On a side note Josh and I are not just sitting around waiting for “handouts,” we have worked our butts off trying to save money for fertility treatments. We save as much as we can every month!
I have been asked a lot when we plan on doing our egg donor cycle, but we do not plan on telling anyone (not even family) when we are doing all of this. As you can imagine this is going to be an EXTREMELY stressful process and we do not want to add to the stress by having people calling, texting or emailing me asking if it worked or not. We would also like the option of telling people that we are pregnant when we feel we are in a safe zone and that we are ready to tell people. I also have been asked if we are going to tell our child(ren) that he/she is from an egg donor and the answer is yes. I feel it is very important for them to know where they came from and to know the struggle and sacrifices that we went through to have them.
With that being said; as open as we have been about us using an egg donor it does not mean that anyone can just go and talk to our child about it, even if you’re family please know that it is NOT your place to talk to them about such things no matter what the comment is. Josh and I will decide what we disclose to him/her and at what WE feel is the appropriate age. This also goes for such things being discussed with Kaedence, Josh and I will decide if and when we want to tell her how her sibling was conceived. So when it comes to our kids please keep your mouth shut about the egg donor issue.
Lastly, I want to clarify that I am not forcing Josh to do ANY of this. I think people may get the wrong idea because he isn’t very vocal about this whole thing, but that’s because he is a private person and talking about it isn’t on the top of his list to discuss. That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to do it or that I am holding a gun to his head or giving him an ultimatum. In fact when our doctor first told us we should use an egg donor I was the one who was hesitant and it took me a whole year to say okay to it, but Josh was on board from day one because he knew our chances would be greater and he so badly wants to have a child with ME no matter how we get him/her. None of this is being forced on either side and it kills me to know that people think that if I didn’t want this so badly that Josh would be okay with not having kids with me because he has a child already. Yes, he has a child but he only gets to see her 4 days a month so it is not the same. He loves me and would do anything for me but I love him just as much and would never force him to do something he didn’t want to do.
I am sorry that this wasn’t more of a happy blog but I felt as though all of this needed to be said.
We love everyone and hope all is well!!!!