I feel as
though I need to clarify some things that have been asked and also a few things
that have been weighing heavily on my heart.
I want to start by thanking everyone
who has liked the “Operation Baby Henrickson” fb page as well as the people who
have been able to donate. I especially want to thank my sister Antonina for
starting both of the pages, we love you so very much and it means the world to
us! With that being said people should know that I am not the admin for the Operation
Baby Henrickson fb page nor am I admin for the GoFundMe page, my sister is in
control of all of that so anything that is posted on the page is from my
sister. My sister came to us and asked if she could start these pages to help
us with the cost of using donor eggs, in no ways were we trying to drag people
into what we are doing, she wanted to help but doesn’t have a ton of money that
she can just give us so she came up with this. We are forever grateful to her
for everything she has done for us! Thank you sister!!!! On a side note Josh
and I are not just sitting around waiting for “handouts,” we have worked our
butts off trying to save money for fertility treatments. We save as much as we
can every month!
I have been asked a lot when we plan
on doing our egg donor cycle, but we do not plan on telling anyone (not even
family) when we are doing all of this. As you can imagine this is going to be
an EXTREMELY stressful process and we do not want to add to the stress by
having people calling, texting or emailing me asking if it worked or not. We
would also like the option of telling people that we are pregnant when we feel
we are in a safe zone and that we are ready to tell people. I also have been
asked if we are going to tell our child(ren) that he/she is from an egg donor
and the answer is yes. I feel it is very important for them to know where they
came from and to know the struggle and sacrifices that we went through to have
them.
With that
being said; as open as we have been about us using an egg donor it does not
mean that anyone can just go and talk to our child about it, even if you’re family
please know that it is NOT your place to talk to them about such things no
matter what the comment is. Josh and I will decide what we disclose to him/her and
at what WE feel is the appropriate age. This also goes for such things being
discussed with Kaedence, Josh and I will decide if and when we want to tell her
how her sibling was conceived. So when
it comes to our kids please keep your mouth shut about the egg donor issue.
Lastly, I
want to clarify that I am not forcing Josh to do ANY of this. I think people
may get the wrong idea because he isn’t very vocal about this whole thing, but
that’s because he is a private person and talking about it isn’t on the top of
his list to discuss. That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to do it or that I
am holding a gun to his head or giving him an ultimatum. In fact when our doctor first told us we
should use an egg donor I was the one who was hesitant and it took me a whole
year to say okay to it, but Josh was on board from day one because he knew our
chances would be greater and he so badly wants to have a child with ME no
matter how we get him/her. None of this is being forced on either side and it kills
me to know that people think that if I didn’t want this so badly that Josh
would be okay with not having kids with me because he has a child already. Yes,
he has a child but he only gets to see her 4 days a month so it is not the
same. He loves me and would do anything
for me but I love him just as much and would never force him to do something he
didn’t want to do.
I am sorry that
this wasn’t more of a happy blog but I felt as though all of this needed to be
said.
We love
everyone and hope all is well!!!!
-Christina
